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What is Love and Logic ® for Teachers?

At Academy Charter school all teachers and staff go through the 9 essential skills training of Teaching with Love and Logic®. 

Love and Logic® is a method of working with students which was developed by educational expert Jim Fay, child psychiatrist Foster W. Cline, M.D. and Charles Fay, Ph.D. Love and Logic has many tools for educators, principals and districts that promote healthy parent/teacher and teacher/student relationships and positive school wide discipline. And yes, Love and Logic works along with all other school discipline programs. It actually makes them work better!

Love and Logic helps educators, administrators, and counselors:

  • Set limits in the classroom without anger
  • Provide underachievers hope and willingness when the going gets tough
  • Raise the odds for kids to stay in school
  • Build strong connections between home and school
  • Improve attendance
  • Manage disruptive students
  • Make teaching and learning more fun and productive
  • Immediately handle disruptive students
  • Get and keep students’ attention
  • Build positive student-teacher relationships
  • Help students own and solve their own problems
  • Bully proof children, diffuse power struggles, and handle difficult people

It works because:

  • When adults take care of themselves, they hand the problem back to the student who created it.
  • When the student has to solve the problem, they have to think.
  • When students have to think, they learn that decisions have consequences.
  • When students have to deal with consequences, they learn to think.
  • When we allow the student to deal with the consequences, they learn to think before they cause a problem.
  • When the student learns to ask themselves, “How is my behavior going to affect me?” they have learned self control.

Academy Charter School also offers classes and information on Parenting with Love and Logic® to our community.  For information on classes or for resources on Love and Logic® please contact either Christie Marble at marblec@academycharter.org or Angela McWilliams at mcwilliamsa@academycharter.org.   All information is directly quoted from the Love and Logic® website at www.loveandlogic.com. 

What Is Parenting with Love and Logic?

“I don’t understand it. The techniques my parents used so effectively just don’t seem to work with kids today.” Does this statement sound familiar to you? A lot of parents today are wondering what to do with their kids and are frustrated because the old techniques just don’t seem to get the job done.

Parents want to enjoy their kids, have fun with them, and enjoy a less stressful family life. But even if their kids are trouble-free right now, they fear what the coming teenage years will bring.

At no time in history have parents been more unsure of their parental role. Even the best are not all that sure about whether they are using the best techniques. They say that their kids don’t appear to be much like the ones they knew in years past.

A lot of conflicting philosophies have been presented over the last 30 years. Many of these sound good, but don’t seem to do the job of helping children become respectful, responsible, and a joy to be around.

Many ideas, offered with the best of intentions, center around making sure that kids are comfortable and feeling good about themselves in order to have a good self-concept. However, we have discovered that self-confidence is achieved through struggle and achievement, not through someone telling you that you are number one. Self-confidence is not developed when kids are robbed of the opportunity to discover that they can indeed solve their own problems with caring adult guidance.

There is, however, an approach to raising kids that provides loving support from parents while at the same time expecting kids to be respectful and responsible.

This approach is known as Love and Logic, a philosophy founded by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline, M.D., and based on the experience of a combined total of over 75 years working with and raising kids.

Many parents want their kids to be well prepared for life, and they know this means kids will make mistakes and must be held accountable for those mistakes. But these parents often fail to hold the kids accountable for poor decisions because they are afraid the kids will see their parents as being mean. The result is they often excuse bad behavior, finding it easier to hold others, including themselves, accountable for their children’s irresponsibility.

Jim Fay teaches us that we should “lock in our empathy, love, and understanding” prior to telling kids what the consequences of their actions will be. The Parenting the Love and Logic Way curriculum teaches parents how to hold their kids accountable in this special way. This Love and Logic method causes the child to see their parent as the “good guy” and the child’s poor decision as the “bad guy.” When done on a regular basis, kids develop an internal voice that says, “I wonder how much pain I’m going to cause for myself with my next decision?” Kids who develop this internal voice become more capable of standing up to peer pressure.

What more could a parent want? Isn’t that a great gift to give your child? Parent child relationships are enhanced, family life becomes less strained, and we have time to enjoy our kids instead of either feeling used by them or being transformed from parent to policeman.

Counseling and Community Resources

Douglas County Youth and Family Resource Guide

The Douglas County Youth Initiative is a collaborative project between Douglas County government, the Douglas County School District, the City of Lone Tree, the Town of Castle Rock, the Town of Parker, and Douglas County Libraries. It serves to coordinate local youth-serving efforts and assess the needs of the community’s kids.

To access this page click here: http://douglascountylibraries.org/Community/YouthResourcesDirectory

For additional counseling resources please contact Ms. McWilliams directly at mcwilliamsa@academycharter.org.

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